Christine Arylo’s Flower Facts on Relationships and Gift Giving

What I believe: Flowers open hearts.

When you receive flowers, the doors of your heart swing open.

When you give flowers, doors swing open in response.

Expressing love and kindness through flowers – to a friend, family member or lover – is faster and less complicated than words and communicates so much about you, too.

Research proves, as I always believed, that flower givers are thought of as caring and loving people who appreciate beauty.

Love Yourself, Treat Yourself to Flowers

And, while no home will ever be picture perfect, flowers can be used to create favorite spots we love to walk by, relax in, or reenergize in. I’m also a firm believer that the amount of love you have in your life starts with the amount of love you have for yourself.  So, in addition to giving flowers to others, remember to give flowers to yourself too.  Research shows that flowers make people happier; make yourself happier and include flowers as a part of your daily self-love practice!

Your Florist is Your BFF

What follows is my advice for building loving relationships, sending love spontaneously and instantly improving the mood of a friend or loved one.  Also there to help is your florist, who’s like that friend-in-the-know who has the best advice and the hottest tips, who you can always rely on to help you add that special touch.

Flowers for Friendships

One of the best-kept secrets is that a gift of flowers from one friend to another is the perfect fit, and the flower power can be immense.  Pick a flower or flowers that remind you of your friend’s unique spirit, and include a note linking the flower to them. One of the greatest gifts you can give a person is the gift of really seeing them, especially at the times that matter most.

There is something magical about sharing your life’s path with a friend for those important milestones… marking special times with flowers will keep you in their memories forever. Congratulate them on a professional achievement, a baby or anything new, or send a big dose of love when they really need it most, after a break-up or a spell of bad news.

The time to build a friendship is when it’s strong, so one of my favorite times to express my appreciation is when they’re least expecting it.

Flowers for Romantic Relationships

Sending flowers to a romantic partner is a natural way to express your emotions – with an added bonus.  Flowers show how special and caring you are, too.  The truth is that great relationships take love and care, not hard work. If you step out of your busy life, and take a moment to be spontaneous with the simple gift of flowers, you’ll be surprised with how much love you get in return.

My first – and perhaps best – piece of advice is to surprise your love with flowers in unexpected places in unanticipated ways.  For instance, put the flowers in a place that your love won’t immediately see them, but instead discovers them by surprise.  Or, have flowers put on her office desk before she gets into work for the morning. Flowers coupled with the element of surprise are a match made in heaven.  If you, for instance, put a flower on the passenger seat of your love’s car, when she sets off to start her day, glances over and sees your gift, WOW! her entire day just changed. It got the stamp of a smile from you.

Smart lovers know that flowers are like bursts of love you can give any day of the year to create a deeper intimacy with the people you love.  No matter how busy life gets, or what challenges you face, remember the bond between you is what matters most.  Think beyond tradition, and send her (or him) flowers that remind you of a memory only the two of you have.  Did you meet in spring?  Fresh tulips or a mix of spring blooms might be the key.  Does she have a sunny personality? Sunflowers or flowers in bright, cheerful colors will make her take notice.  You get the idea.  Flowers can signify so much – it’s just up to you to make your move.

Finally, when you order flowers, tell your florist what statement you want the flowers to make. From a tender “you’re sweet” to a more direct “I think you’re hot,” and anywhere in-between, a floral arrangement can be designed to communicate your feelings, and your florist can be your cupid any time, all the time.

Flowers for Moms

Let’s face it.  Moms deserve a floral reward just about every day of the year.  And, what moms want more than anything is to feel their kids’ love.  So, how easy is this?  Pick a day, any day, and send her the kind of flowers that express your love.  Choose flowers that say something about her.  Does she love purple?  Does her favorite painting have daisies?  Did she carry roses at her wedding?  On her birthday, tuck an old photo of her and you into the card with a note saying “another year younger.”   Or, send her flowers you grew in your garden growing up.  For many of us, an aunt, a godmother, in-law or even a family friend has been a mom to us.  Return the love with a gift of flowers saying, “Thank you for the impact you’ve made on my life.”

Flowers at Work

By now, we know the ability of flowers to instantly boost our mood.  Who doesn’t need that at work?  Here are a few ways flowers can work overtime:

  • Deliver flowers to a colleague’s desk for an unexpected friendship surprise.
  • Say thank you to co-workers who’ve put in extra time.
  • Apologize for a missed deadline.
  • Keep flowers on your desk just to freshen up your space.
  • Or on Monday, pick up a bunch of flowers to keep a group space cheerful all week long.

Read more of Christine Arylo’s Relationship Tips.

Christine Arylo

Christine Arylo, author of Choosing ME Before WE, inspires women to get the success and happiness they want by living their most real and wise selves first. Read Christine Arylo’s Relationship Tips. is hosted by the Society of American Florists, the U.S. floral industry trade association. Click below to find a local SAF member florist to send flowers, roses and gifts for delivery.